FAMILY FEUD

JUST THINKING: 

Family feud has been a major cause in the disintegration of many families. One of the ways family feud takes place is through child favoritism. If you as a parent says that a child of yours is the most favourite, then you are a wicked parent. You have set a trap for that child and a cause for siblings rivalry.
No matter the reason for the thought of a child being your favorite, you should resist it as a parent. No child is useless. Every child has his strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes.  Your children are unique individually. So,  picking one out of your children as the favourite is an injustice to the others.
When you show that you prefer a child to the others, you are telling the other children that you are not their parent or you hate them.
Some parents show child favoritism for several reasons. It could be the special circumstances of the child's birth. It may be as a result of the child being the richest, most resourceful, or the child being the most brilliant and so on.
No matter the reason, child favoritism is wrong. It has caused serious family feuds, separated families and made siblings to hate themselves for life. Many siblings have become sworn enemies because of their parents.
Some parents instigate their children against themselves, one child against another or one child against the other children. Hence, siblings rivalry becomes the setback and collapse of the family.
How can you prefer one child to the other(s). These are the children you carried in your womb for nine months or the child that bears your name? Sir or Ma,  you are wicked if you do it.
What Isaac and Rebekah did in the bible is a typical example of setting children against themselves. Isaac loved Esau, while Rebekah loved Jacob. These people were supposed to be the parents of Esau and Jacob.
Genesis 25:28 NIVsays, "Isaac, who had a taste for wild game, loved Esau, but Rebekah loved Jacob".
We have also seen and heard of parents using their children against their husbands or wives. This is wickedness. Guess what,  the parents will resolve their differences but you have sown a seed of hatred in your spouse heart against that child or the children you used against your spouse.
A family is supposed to be the bedrock of the society because if the family units are okay,  then the society may be okay.  But if the family system is destroyed as a result of parents' greed, selfishness and myopic mind, then that will be translated into the society.
If you experienced family feud or siblings rivalry because of your parents, please make up your mind that you will not do that to your own children. Unity keeps the bond of families. So, don't break the cord of unity in your home. A family that stays together grows together.
I have heard of families where a young child or the youngest of the family dictates the the cause of the family because he is the richest, most placed,  positioned, connected in the family and so on. This can cause divisions in family with different fractions of a singular family. Two or more groups in a family can cause siblings rivalry.  One group supports one person, while the other group supports the other person. The persons being supported by each group are supposed to be siblings.
I have also heard of parents worshipping a child and the child controlling his parents because he has "money". If that is the case, you are the cause of the problems.
Luke 11:17 NET says, "But Jesus, realizing their thoughts, said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself is destroyed, and a divided household falls".