Dont Cross That Line.

 

Some time ago, someone said to my friends and i that we should work on ourselves because sexual temptation would get worse when we got married and that you would start noticing and seeing people you could have loved all around you. I was shocked by the statement because I thought that when you are married, sexual temptation will cease.
I thought this was wrong because since you are married and your spouse is always with you when you need him or her to perform their conjugal right.
This feeling of seeing other men or ladies that you could have loved is a trick from the pit of hell for you to compromise your marriage. The devil is so tricky that he brings in that person when there are issues in your marriage. At that point in time,you will start noticing that person though he or she may not be much better or beautiful than your spouse. It also comes as a result of close proximity to that person in the office, school, neighbourhood, etc.
The devil will make you see the good things about the person which will make you think that he or she is better than your spouse. This will result in you comparing the person with your spouse. There is a tendency for you to long for the person's presence, hearing the person's voice and name daily more than that of your spouse. It may also result in emotional attachment that may end up destroying your home and life.
When I got married, I started noticing ladies around me that I could have loved. I was surprised because I was a christian and I asked some people around who were Christians if they too experience it as well and they said, "YES". At this point in time I remembered what that mentor figure had told us. I later saw a scripture in Proverbs 5, that has been helping me when that thought and feeling comes to mind. Proverbs 5:15-20 says:
( 15 Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. 16 Should your springs overflow in the streets,your streams of water in the public squares?
17 Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers.
18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always,may you ever be intoxicated with her love.
20 Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man's wife? Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman?).
Your wife's breast should satisfy you at all times. The word breast could also mean love, personality, shape, etc. Although, it may not be easy, you should make deliberate efforts to be satisfied by  your spouse's breast. Your home and life are more important that a fling that will just last for 5 or 10 minutes.  At times,we think that the grass at the other end is greener which is not true. We also think that the other person is more lovely, understanding and caring than our spouse, until we know who he or she really is. We think so because we don't really know him or her.
If you do know them, you will understand that your spouse is unique and you are blessed to have him or her. Remember we do not fight against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers in the heavenly realm( Ephesians 6:12). The devil will do every thing for you to fall and destroy your marital vows. Please be careful and hold on. Wilson Ileogben