Judging Righteously

Many people judge others by their actions while they want others to judge them by their intention. This is not a righteous judgement. It is common amongst us and I have been guilty of this several times. It has affected and impaired my judgement about many issues I have had. Many relationships that could have enhanced our course in destiny have been destroyed because of this. We have also thrown meaningful relationships even marriages away because we don't see with the eyes of others and God instead we see from our selfish side called "I". Uhm, this sounds familiar.  This is also known as selective morality. Selective Morality is when a person affirms, sees and identifies the wrongness, mistakes, attitude in other people but when it comes to him, his mind shuts down all thoughts when he does the same wrong, mistakes or put up the same attitude.  This is a major problem many people have. We also need to understand that when there is a quarrel or misunderstanding, the parties involved have there own faults and that the other person might not have annoyed us deliberately. You might have started it but the reactions of the other could have added fuel to the fire. However, we should realise that the things others did that got us annoyed may not be intentional. If there are issues between two people and a third party who is not myopic and partial comes to judge, he will see that the parties involved had reasonable intentions which they never saw. Many of us are guilty of it. If we all judge others by their intentions, quarrelling, rancour, bitterness, enmity, malice will be reduced in our homes, offices,  churches, families, neighbourhood and country. Righteous Judgement is when you judge based on righteousness, God's ways and standard and you are not partial. You also make righteous judgement by seeing from the other person's point of view and intentions. To judge righteously, the two people involved in any misunderstanding should learn to face the issues head on because if they don't and they delay, the devil will expand the issue in their heart and it will be blown out of proportion. The purpose of righteous judgement is to bring peace, unity, forgiveness, understanding and to let the will and love of God manifest,to shut out the devil in a relationship/marriage and to make love and peace continue to grow amongst the parties involved in a quarrel. Lastly, the parties involved should accept their wrongs, repent of whatever they have done and tell the other that they are sorry. Wilson Ileogben